Sunday, July 12, 2009

At My Wit's End...

So, I thought Lawson was growing out of his "terrible twos." The last few days feel like he's getting worse. Basically he just doesn't listen to what I say. He is very rebellious and incredibly stubborn. We go to an exercise group at the church 3 times a week. It's in the gym and the kids just run around while the moms workout. Before we get to the church we have a little talk about how we don't push kids or take toys away. He forgets very easily and tried to push an older boy off the stage (he has pushed younger kids off the stage before, thankfully no terrible injuries). I gave him a timeout and he apologized to the boy. A second time he pushes another kid. He got a timeout and I told him if he pushed anyone again we would have to go home. A few minutes later a little boy was running with a ball that Lawson wanted. Lawson came up from behind him and pushed him over. I marched up to him, got my stuff, and we left- while he was kicking and screaming. He cried all the way to the car and all the way home. When we got home he got a spanking and another timeout. I don't know what to do to get through to him. Any advice on discipline? What has worked for you?
Today at church they came and got me with Lawson. I took him back up to his nursery and stayed in there with him. He pushed a little girl while I was in there. He kept screaming when they were trying to give the lesson and wouldn't listen to the teachers when they would tell him to sit down. I warned him, gave him a timeout when he wouldn't listen, left the room for another timeout in the hall, and then finally went and got Tyson and we had to leave church early because Lawson wouldn't stop yelling, screaming, and crying. He's been driving me crazy and I don't know what to do to help him behave better. I'm in desperate need of advice!

4 comments:

Sam said...

First of all, you are a good mom. You love him, you are patient with him and you do your very best to teach him the right way to do things. As far a discipline, I do the same things with Julian. The only thing I can think of is that maybe it's a food allergy? I know it sounds weird, but I have a friend who had 2 very difficult children. They had milk sensitivities when she was nursing but she thought that they grew out of them. She took them off of all dairy products and within 3 days they were absolute angels. They had maybe one or two minor fits a day instead of constant screaming, crying, and aggressive behavior. I'm not sure if this is something that could help... just an idea. I am proud of you. Keep up the good work. You help me be a better mom.

Kristin Baldwin said...

I don't have much by way of advice but I can completely relate. When we got back to church after Quinten was born Ryanna morphed into a crazy child in nursery. She had been the sweet, obedient child previous. It was bad enough they asked us to start coming in with her. We tried lots of things to help but nothing really did. More or less it just took about a month and she is getting back to normal. I'm not sure what has changed or helped but she's back to being a nice girl in nursery. Good luck and just know you're not alone!

just jason said...

and you ALL wonder why i'm not married and DON'T have KIDS!!!! ha ha ha ha ha...good luck and i am sure you are an AMAZING mother. kids get crazy and have to get their energy out, and unfortunately it makes us look like bad parents cause they are out of control:) ha ha ha...for not having any kids i sure do sound like i know what i'm talking about. ha ha ha...good luck and just keep up the great work;)

katie and kaden said...

ha ha i'm going through that with jaxon every once in a while and it sounds like the exact same tantrums!! its so frustrating!! jaxon didn't start pushing or hitting until we started going to kadens softball games, and jaxon has gone to play on the playground nearby and there is always this one kid there that hits him, pushes him and throws sand at him. i've had to go tell the kid (who is 5 by the way) that he is not allowed to play with jaxon anymore because he doesn't play nice. and this was weeks and weeks in a row this kid would do this and so because of that, jaxon has started doing the same things that this little boy does to him. so what i've done is of course he has to sit with no toys and have a talk, and i've learned that if i can direct his attention to something else...even though he is in trouble, if i can get him to sit and color or something where he can't run around, then he will calm down and when his mind isn't somewhere else, then i can talk to him calmly and explain what he is doing wrong and of course make him apologize and give hugs so he knows its wrong. and when they get screaming and don't stop no matter what you do, just let them finish (somewhere alone like his room) and wait til he's done. and he usually does do it again on another day and i have to remind him and then he knows its wrong and he stops cuz he remembers the last time and that he got in trouble. kids are hard cuz they have so much energy and when their adrenaline kicks in when they're around other kids and i know they just don't think about it sometimes. but anyways good luck and i hope that might help!